Dating someone with religious differences
Have you ever dated someone who was really religious and he/she chose religion over you?
The thing is, I’m not of any religion, but I’m pretty open-minded.
If there were feedback forms on every date, it would be useful, but we’re never gonna really know why others do what they do. I’ve been dumped for Jesus, Buddha, Jehova, and that Hindu dude with the elephant head.
So how about we just look at their actions instead? And I’ve been thankful to all of those women for ending it before the relationship went too far, and we had to argue about whether to send the kids to public school or an ashram.
This says nothing about whether her man is also kind, attractive, successful, emotionally available or interested in her.
And yet we wonder why finding someone is so difficult.
He says I won’t be able to support his decisions and/or I’ll resent him.
I don’t mind at all but he ultimately felt that because I don’t believe in the same thing, he’ll end up making decisions in the future based on his faith that I won’t be able to fully understand.
Which brings up a bigger point: let’s stop obsessing about WHY people do things. It could be any number of reasons — she’s getting over her ex, you have bad breath, she didn’t feel that spark, you talked too much about yourself, she’s seeing three other guys.
The truth is, we’ll never know people’s motivations for acting. And since you’re never going to get into her head, why drive yourself nuts about it?
It doesn’t matter if he fell out of love, is making an excuse, or really resents that you’ve got no desire to start tithing your income.
Anyone who chooses religion over you is not your future spouse.