Divorced pastor dating
You obviously don’t want to post photos of yourself in super-sexy outfits or say sleazy things or in any way to compromise yourself, but there’s no shame in trying to meet single people.Design your profile knowing that it may be seen by those who know you in ministry and hold your head high. If someone should happen to come upon your profile and comment on it, you can just say, “Oh, dating is so hard nowadays. In my denomination, pastors are advised to keep their amorous eyes way out of the congregation and their mitts off their parishioners. People come to church seeking spiritual community, not to be romantically pursued by the minister of that community. Those days are long over— like, say, 100 years over.With the surge of divorce following World War II, broken marriages were found in more than a few manses.By the 1980s, a growing number of clergymen were divorced and remarried. But not all Christians and churchgoers are comfortable with the devalued norm for the sacred office.
Either they freak out and assume I’m a prudish Jesus-freak or they bend over backwards assuring me that “that’s cool” (causing me to defensively think, “Thanks, pal, but I actually don’t need your approval”). We are ministers, in the business of officiating at and solemnizing marriages.
My predecessor in this congregation has an amazing wife who was every bit a partner in his long pastorate and much beloved by everyone.
I would dearly love to have a wife who could provide that same kind of presence and support me in the same ways. If our people want to help us find a great hubby or wife, more power to them.
True story: a married Unitarian Universalist I saw at a denominational conference sneeringly mentioned to me in conversation that he thought my personal ad was “cute.” It was obvious that he really thought he had something on me.
I responded, “And what were YOU doing on the personals?