Mistakes men make when dating
You will get further in less time in finding a relationship if you allow yourself to be genuine.
It’s OK to put your best foot forward, and also to be a bit cautious, but have the courage to be upfront and show who you are. Talking too much about your ex: While this information will eventually be shared at least to some extent, it shouldn’t be discussed in detail during the initial phase of a relationship.
Unless you can ascertain and directly communicate your needs (by being clear and specific), then you are basically operating on a child level.
While many people get by this way, it is not very effective, and puts you at a disadvantage when you are trying to get your needs met.
If fear of commitment is an obstacle, better to work out your patterns (or schemas) in therapy than in your relationships. If you do it, then you need to pace yourself, and be more considerate of the other person, who you are probably leading on. Not being honest about your needs: Pretending everything is OK can work for only so long.
While most mental health professionals don’t consider themselves to be “dating therapists” or offer special dating counseling, it is often helpful to apply the best practices of cognitive therapy to improve all aspects of dating, from date selection process, to the process of forming a healthy positive relationship, preferably one that meets the needs of both parties and therefore becomes a long-term relationship.
In the first 3-6 months of a relationship, you are likely running on oxytocin, which is a chemical found in chocolate.
It creates the sense of well-being and euphoria that comes with “falling in love.” This might as well be dubbed the period of temporary insanity, because you are not in command of all your faculties; your brain is hijacked by those lovely chemicals, interfering with your ability to think clearly.
A healthy relationship is one between two equals, both giving and receiving in reciprocal fashion.
If you find that you are in a relationship that has a lot of benefits but there are some kinks that need to be addressed, best to discover effective ways of handling these conflicts early on.